“Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.” – Unknown
This was a quote shared with me this morning by my buddy, Randy Frazier. He also sent me an article about the new AT&T ads with the OK Doctor, the OK brake shop, the OK salmon, and the OK tattoo artist. I love these ads.
What was your 2018 like? Was it just OK?
“Write two things that have improved in the past 12 months as a direct result of your actions.”
I have asked thousands of people to do this in my presentations over the years. I’ve seen very few pens hit paper. I normally get “the deer in the headlights” look.
How’s your health, your finances, your relationships? Are they just OK? Are you satisfied with average and mediocrity? If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.
As I revisit my 2019 goals, I am looking at what I can Stop, Start, Improve and Repeat.
Every Christmas season I am reminded of a family that had all their Christmas gifts stolen from their SUV. The wife called the husband to tell him about the break in. She was sobbing uncontrollably. His response has stuck with me for years. It is written in my journal. He told his wife, “if we can fix it with a check, it’s not that big of a problem.
Friends, all we have to do is visualize St. Judes or a Children’s Hospital to see many problems that can not be fixed with a check.
I challenge each of you to write two items in your health, finances, or relationships that can be fixed or improved by…., not a check, but by a choice. These will be known as Your2.
Once you have Your2 established, go to a spouse or friend. Have them ask you this question; “If you can fix or improve two things in your life with something as simple as a choice, why aren’t you?
If you choose to not fix or improve Your2 with a choice, you have just decided to be OK. Every commercial you see about the OK Doctor, the OK brake shop, the OK salmon, and the OK tattoo artist is now about you.
I know through many different experiences that no one can be shamed into changing. That is not the saddest part of the story. The saddest part is to be so selfish, you do not consider the joy that improving Your2 could bring to someone else.
Put that in your e-cigarette and vape it.
I hope your 2019 is much better than OK.
I’ve been healthy most of my life. In fact, I lived over 60 years of my life without spending one night in a hospital. When I was 60.3 years old, that streak ended.
I had a health issue that thankfully was caught early, but resulted in quite a few days in the hospital. I believe it was night number four around 3am. Tears began streaming down my face. I’m not sure if it was the flood of emotions, my thoughts, the morphine, or a combo pack of all three.
I sat up in bed. I thought about all the times in my life I have thought, and said these words out loud to other people; “If I don’t have my health, I don’t have anything.” I thought, “What a selfish, arrogant, incorrect statement. What a lie and myth. How could I have said something so selfish out loud?”
You see, for the first time in my 60+ years, I didn’t have my health. And for all of my 60+ years, I foolishly thought if I lost my health, I wouldn’t have anything. That statement focuses on the negative. It focused on what I didn’t have. It totally disregarded what I did have.
That night was a transformation for me. I quit focusing on what I didn’t have, and began focusing on what I DID have. I became a more grateful person in an instant. Sure, I didn’t have my health, but I came up with a pretty good list of what I did have. These are just a few items that hit my mind that morning;
I have a Jesus that loved me.
I have a wife of 38 years at that time that loved me and was praying for me.
I have two beautiful daughters and their families that loved me and were praying for me.
I have numerous friends that loved me and were praying for me. One couple, when finding out about my health issue, graciously offered their home for us to stay. To this day, it is “The Healing House.”
I have skills that God has given me.
In a few hours, a nurse will force me to walk the halls to regain my strength. I will be pushing my IV pole with one hand and attempting to limit exposure by holding that poorly designed gown closed with my other hand. I will pass by rooms occupied by those that can’t walk or can’t use their hands. I have my legs and hands.
There were so many other thoughts but I made a commitment that morning. I will never, ever again make the statement, “If I don’t have my health, I don’t have anything.” This statement wrongly categorizes my health as Something, and everything else as Nothing. This is so far from the truth.
This morning I woke up so grateful, so thankful in my heart. It has been four years this month since I sat up in that bed and had these thoughts. There are many things I journal or blog to keep from forgetting. This is not one of those. I will never forget the things I am thankful for. I was always grateful for all the other items but I wrongly disrespected them when I made that selfish statement about my health.
No, I have journaled and blogged this so you won’t forget.