He Let Me Help! – Happy Father’s Day

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I’ve had a blessed life and have been grateful for all the different roles I’ve played in life. Dad to two girls and Papaw to two boys are no exceptions. This year my favorite youngest daughter brought my favorite granddaughter into our lives. I look forward to many more memories with my family.

There has been much more laughter than tears and many more memories than regrets. That’s what life is all about.

Note: Tears during two trips down the aisle and father/bride dances do not count as bad tears.

I tell a story in my leadership seminars about the pleasure of watching a leader grow and develop while knowing you played a small role in their development. I wish that feeling and experience on each attendee. Every time I tell the story, Father’s Day hits my mind and I totally lose my train of thought. I do believe I recover before my attendees notice.

I think about watching my two girls grow into beautiful young women.

I know. I know. God did that.

However, what I’m most proud of is even though they have their own personalities, they both have the same good, kind heart. They are both wonderful parents as a result of that heart.

I know, I know, God did that too, but you know what I’m most grateful for?………….

He let me help.

Happy Fathers Day to all dads.

What are they leaving with?
Do they have a loving home?
Leaving with?
Have I showed them right from wrong?
Leaving with?
When we’re miles and miles apart,
there’s a choice to be made,
and they look inside their heart,
what are they leaving with?

Chorus from “What Are They Leaving With”
Music and lyrics by Greg Gilbert-
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Greg Gilbert


Greg Gilbert conducts keynotes and the Leadership Development Program, “Leading Like You Own It – Why We Never Wax A Rental Car!” On-Site and at locations around the country. He also presents “Lessons In Leadership, Life And Laughter” with “Mr. HR With A Guitar” at team, association and civic meetings.

He is the author of “The Power Of Better Series – Volume I – Leading Like You Own It! Why We Never Wax A Rental Car.”  and his PDF (Personal Development Fiction) book 50 Days Of Hay – A Life Changing Summer. He is committed to improving results through increased Education, Engagement and Accountability.

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Make A Memory This Weekend!

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I had the privilege of sharing my leadership program with a group of HR Professionals in St. Louis this week. I was humbled by the feedback and truly think a few will return to their jobs and “Lead Like They Own It!”

I was able to turn it into a short Workation. I stopped in North Little Rock and picked up my favorite youngest grandson for a road trip. We were able to see St. Louis from 630 feet in the air from the Arch. There was also a high school all-star baseball game in Busch Stadium that we were able to attend. On the return trip, we made a stop in Mountain View, Arkansas. They have music on the square in the evenings. It is very peaceful.

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Allow me to set the stage for a memory:

Right after his first Coke Float at an old soda fountain, Papaw and Kasen are on a sidewalk bench “waiting on a woman” as Sandy is shopping in Mt. View. After 30 minutes or so, we join woman and the conversation goes like this;

Papaw: “Kasen, did any ants bite you while we were on the bench? I had a couple of ants bite me.”

Kasen: “No Papaw, I guess they didn’t want the salad bar. They went right to the buffet line.”

We all burst out laughing.

I do not know if there is a sarcasm gene in the DNA or if it’s learned; but either way, it can surface at eleven years of age.

P.S. When Kasen was eight, we were in the car, “waiting on a woman.” I turned to him in the back seat and told him; “Kasen, you will spend many hours of your life “waiting on a woman.”

With the most sincere, innocent look on his face, he answered; “I know Papaw, but maybe I’ll get one someday.” I just patted his knee, nodded my head, turned toward the steering wheel and successfully fought back my laughter.

Man, I love being a Papaw.

What does this have to do with leadership? Absolutely nothing but you can NOT have Leadership without Life.

Do you have any plans to make a memory this weekend?

Greg Gilbert


Greg Gilbert conducts keynotes and the Leadership Development Program, “Leading Like You Own It – Why We Never Wax A Rental Car!” On-Site and at locations around the country. He also presents “Lessons In Leadership, Life And Laughter” with “Mr. HR With A Guitar” at team, association and civic meetings.

He is the author of “The Power Of Better Series – Volume I – Leading Like You Own It! Why We Never Wax A Rental Car.”  and his PDF (Personal Development Fiction) book 50 Days Of Hay – A Life Changing Summer. He is committed to improving results through increased Education, Engagement and Accountability.

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YOUR Child Is In A Gorilla Cage. Who Do YOU Want In A Position Of Leadership?

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This blog has been in my draft folder since Saturday night. I always let emotional post or emails sleep through the night. This one slept three nights but was allowed to escape by the bizarre comments of people that have very different priorities than me. I welcome different viewpoints but as a parent and grandparent, I am locked in to one set of priorities.

Okay. Memorial Day is over but I appreciate those that gave all for this country every single day. That never stops for me.

Many did not have their mind on the men and women that gave their life for this country this weekend. This group of perfect individuals, having never made a mistake in their lives, were busy signing petitions, expressing hate, anger and concern over the shooting of a gorilla in a zoo. This blog could take so many directions but I want to stick with leadership. I will let others take different directions.

I’ll make this very simple;

Imagine you are the parent. Your three year old child is in the cage with a 400 pound gorilla. Let’s give your child a random name. Let’s call him Jimmy. For your story, substitute the name of one of your children. Yes, I know the gorilla has a name but you don’t care. He has Jimmy. He is dragging Jimmy through the water and from one side of the enclosure to the other side. He is handling Jimmy like a limp dishcloth. You don’t even know he has the strength of ten humans and don’t care. You want your child back.

You are not thinking; How, Who, What, Where or Why. You want the life of your child spared. You will take any type of personal punishment to have your child safe in your arms. Nothing can come close to the helplessness and guilt you feel at this moment. You know at any second, the life of your child could be squeezed, bitten or choked from his small defenseless body.

It’s like you can hear a giant clock ticking each second off of your child’s life. A child that should be looking at a lifespan of decades could be looking at seconds. You’re thinking your child should not pay with his life because of your lack of attention. You would swap places with your child if you could.

No punishment, petition, hate or angry words can come close to the thought of seeing your child in a small casket. Nothing can mask the pain of thinking about waking up every morning with regret, guilt and anger at yourself.

Right now you are helpless. You need a leader. You need a leader that recognizes the seriousness of the situation. You want a leader that knows that every second counts. You want a leader that knows there are no absolutes in this situation but the life of your child must be the main priority. You want a leader that takes action immediately. You want a leader that no matter how it turns out, they can say, “I did what had the highest percentage of saving Jimmy’s life.”

Saturday afternoon, a mother was thankful that leader appeared. So am I.

Sandy and I have been in a “situation.” We have received the call that our oldest daughter has been in a wreck and they are having to cut them out of the car. It took us 20 minutes to get there and for 20 minutes, we did not know if our daughter was dead or alive. I don’t wish that on anyone. Thankfully, that “situation” worked out.

There will always be more armchair quarterbacks than true leaders. The tipping point that scares me is when many leave their chair and actually assume positions of leadership. As a parent, I’m thankful that some of the haters were not making the call in this situation. Honestly, we are truly better off with them in a chair and their fingers doing the talking on a keyboard instead of making critical decisions that impact lives or livelihoods.

I will leave all the second guessing, hate and anger to others. Personally, I can’t get past Joy and Relief. We can all voice our opinion on this situation because of the First Amendment that Leaders fought and died for. If you are not a parent, well, I will quote a Harley Davidson Marketing Slogan; “If you have to ask, you wouldn’t understand.”

For you movie buffs, I guess what I’m asking is;

If your child was Taken; would you want a petition writing, human or animal rights activist negotiating with the kidnappers or would you prefer Liam (I have skills) Neeson on the case?

Did this situation have the best possible ending? No it didn’t. We all hate that it even happened. That’s why they are called situations. Leaders deal with situations. But it also did not have the worst possible ending. Why? Leadership.

Leadership; you can’t live without it. Families, organizations and countries cannot flourish without it. A child might not be alive today if it did not exist in a Cincinnati zoo.

Yes, I said might not be alive today. There is no way to rewind and try different scenarios. If you want to gamble, go buy a scratch-off ticket. If you don’t have two bucks, offer up your child. Maybe you will win and get them back.

Greg Gilbert


Greg Gilbert conducts keynotes and the Leadership Development Program, “Leading Like You Own It – Why We Never Wax A Rental Car!” On-Site and at locations around the country. He also presents “Lessons In Leadership, Life And Laughter” with “Mr. HR With A Guitar” at team, association and civic meetings.

He is the author of “The Power Of Better Series – Volume I – Leading Like You Own It! Why We Never Wax A Rental Car.”  and his PDF (Personal Development Fiction) book 50 Days Of Hay – A Life Changing Summer. He is committed to improving results through increased Education, Engagement and Accountability.

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Important Message For Only Those That Did Or Did Not Serve in the Military!

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One of our church members sang “God Bless America” as a special yesterday. She did a wonderful job. It made my eyes sweat just a bit. Man, I love my country.

I wasn’t planning on a special but it was Memorial Weekend and I shared a song I wrote and recorded a few years ago titled, “With What They Died For.” I was honored a few years ago to share this song on Veteran’s Day on KATV’s Good Morning Arkansas.

As I listened to Leslie do a beautiful job on “God Bless America,” something hit me like that ton of bricks I’ve always heard about. When I was a kid, I ate many meals around my grandparent’s table.

If it was just our family and my grandparents, my dad served in the military. My grandfather served by working at an ammunition plant in Camden and later at Lone Star Ammunition Plant. If my aunt, uncle and cousins were in from California, my uncle served in the military. If my cousins from Cross Roads were in the house, their dad served in the military.

Throw in cousins from my grandmother’s family, great uncles, a neighbor or three and there could very easily be a dozen men that have served our country breaking bread at a kitchen table, back porch table and TV trays scattered throughout the house. Many more of the men and women served by working at Red River Army Depot or Lone Star Ammunition Plant. My wife said her family was the same way.

What about today’s tables? Look at your crowd today as you grill a burger or steak. How many have served in the military?  I didn’t serve in the military. The Vietnam War was winding down when I graduated. I chose to let it ride and see what happened. I received a draft number in the 300’s.

This made me think; where did my love of country originate? Did some of it come from being in that house with so many people that had to leave their family and country to fight for something they may or may not have understood? At that age, I didn’t understand freedom. I do now. Every time I share a program with a group and cover;

  1. My high on trust, low on rules organization will ALWAYS beat your high on rules, low on trust organization. (Could you substitute country for organization?)
  2. Rules without a relationship results in rebellion.

freedom becomes more and more clear to me. 

I can’t explain it. Even though I didn’t serve in the military, I have a huge sense of pride and truly love my country.

I’ve never been able to listen to Lee Greenwood sing “God Bless The USA” with dry eyes. The National Anthem at sporting events always gets to me. I’ve never been at a rodeo where they always honor God and our country that I didn’t get emotional.

I recently spoke at the Mississippi State Human Resources conference. They opened the conference with prayer, a ROTC Color Guard and The Pledge Of Allegiance. I was so honored to speak after that kick off. Harley Davidson has a marketing slogan, “If you have to ask, you wouldn’t understand.” This applies to many of our passions and especially to love of country. 

As members of our military gradually disappear from our tables and family gatherings; as VFW’s slowly disappear; we as non-military parents have a huge job. We MUST take every opportunity to instill the love of country in our kids. We must talk about Armed Forces Day, Memorial Day, Independence Day, Veteran’s Day and their meaning. We can’t let these holidays or BBQ’s become the jolly, fat guy of Christmas.

There are and will be multiple generations that did not serve in the military. It will become even more important to share this with our kids. We wouldn’t think about raising them without discussing honesty and integrity. If you are strong in your faith, you wouldn’t dream of not instilling that in your child. Love of, and pride in our country should be no different.

If we cease teaching this, future generations could possibly be foolish enough to vote for people that remove some of our freedoms. Those are the same freedoms that the dozen men at tables and TV trays at my grandparent’s house fought for along with hundreds of thousands of other men and women. Those of us in Skip Generations have a huge job in front of us.

Thanks to those that have served and especially to those that gave their lives. Visit ForServing.com for a free download of my song, “With What They Died For.”

Greg Gilbert

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“I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.” – Thomas Jefferson

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. – John 15:13King James Version (KJV)


Greg Gilbert conducts keynotes and the Leadership Development Program, “Leading Like You Own It – Why We Never Wax A Rental Car!” On-Site and at locations around the country. He also presents “Lessons In Leadership, Life And Laughter” with “Mr. HR With A Guitar” at team, association and civic meetings.

He is the author of “The Power Of Better Series – Volume I – Leading Like You Own It! Why We Never Wax A Rental Car.”  and his PDF (Personal Development Fiction) book 50 Days Of Hay – A Life Changing Summer. He is committed to improving results through increased Education, Engagement and Accountability.

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We’re From The Government And We ARE Here To Help!

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I just returned from three presentations in Mississippi with a great group of leaders in Biloxi and Meridian. One of the attendees said when he checked me out, the Letter To My First Leader Blog sold him on attending my program. I was humbled by the positive feedback of the attendees.

After being treated very well by the MS SHRM organization, Ron Meyers Productions, Lynn at Meridian Community College and everyone at the Beau Rivage Resort in Biloxi, I had a couple of really bad customer service examples as I traveled home. I will give them both the opportunity to resolve the issues privately.

I needed a customer service win. I needed to restore my Hope in good old fashioned customer service. It occurred in my hometown of Hope, Arkansas in the Hempstead County Tax Assessors office.

I was on the phone yesterday with a friend. We were talking about the advantages of small communities and rural America. I missed a phone call while we were talking. During the conversation, my friend said his daughter was a big city girl and would not consider living in any city with a population of under 400,000.

After completing my conversation, I checked my voice mail. I had a message from Judy in the Hempstead County Assessors office. She said they were going through the list of people that had not assessed their taxes. She then checked to see if she could find a contact number. The message said I needed to assess by the end of the month to avoid paying a 10% penalty. I called, assessed and thanked her for calling and reminding me. I felt she went over and above because I have forgotten in the past and paid the penalty.

This is especially commendable because the Assessors Office has no competition. They could treat their customers poorly and their revenue stream remains the same. In fact, their good customer service probably reduced their revenue by eliminating some penalties. My sincere thanks to the Hempstead County Assessors Office. This was very different from a previous experience I wrote about in We Are Government. We Are Different!

Oh, I did call my friend back. I suggested he ask his daughter to not assess in Dallas next year and see if her local assessors office calls and reminds her to assess and avoid the penalty. I’m betting a 10% penalty the answer would be NO!

There is still Hope in good old fashioned customer service. Do you have any recent examples of good customer service? I need some more wins.

Greg Gilbert


Greg Gilbert conducts keynotes and the Leadership Development Program, “Leading Like You Own It – Why We Never Wax A Rental Car!” On-Site and at locations around the country. He also presents “Lessons In Leadership, Life And Laughter” with “Mr. HR With A Guitar” at team, association and civic meetings.

He is the author of “The Power Of Better Series – Volume I – Leading Like You Own It! Why We Never Wax A Rental Car.”  and his PDF (Personal Development Fiction) book 50 Days Of Hay – A Life Changing Summer. He is committed to improving results through increased Education, Engagement and Accountability.

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